The parenting journey for me especially brings out a lot of let’s say insecurities, that is partially why I blog about it, for perspective. What does this have to do with dating? Well when I started dating again at some point I started feeling like I had to choose between 3 relationships, the one I had with my boyfriend, the relationship I had with my self and the mother daughter relationship I had with baby. What this looked like on a regular day was if I spent any more than 2 hours with my partner that meant I had little time to spend with the baby or by myself. If I devoted my self and time solely to baby that meant the other 2 are compromised and that’s not good for any of us . That’s the challenge when dating someone who is not the father of your child, all 3 of you cannot spend time together exclusively until you get to a certain point in your relationship. In addition to this what role then does your partner play in the whole thing, does he automatically become a "father"? or am I overthinking things? Essentially these are the things I think about.
So here's 5 things I have learnt thus far, thus far because it's an ongoing , evolving journey
- LOOK FOR A PARTNER NOT A FATHER FOR YOUR CHILD
- BE KIND TO YOURSELF
- HE MUST LIKE KIDS
- SET BOUNDARIES
- HEAL
